As I think about what it means to be a man, husband, and father, I can’t help but think about the major role my dad played in who I am as a dad today!
The simple truth of the matter is I used to think my dad really didn't have much to do with who, what, and how I became a man, husband, father…
As I sit here reflecting I discover that couldn't be farther from the truth.
It has been many years since my sister, brother, and I have been with our father on Father's Day.
It seems like yesterday that we were hanging out and laughing. We miss him dearly, but we appreciate the times that we shared together. Although he shared words of wisdom that he poured into us, they didn't resonate in my life until I uncovered them in my heart in recent years!
Are you living the life you designed?
I’ve been doing a lot of reflection on my current life and what I want my legacy to be.
I have freely envisioned a better present and a greater future!
I know my purpose and to Whom that purpose will affect as I leave my legacy!!!
At the beginning of this year, I asked myself, “What can I do to position myself to live a better life that impacts those connected to me in a positive and effective way?”
I was reflecting on how quickly time passes and couldn’t help but think about the life, and legacy of my father.
It has been many years since I suddenly lost my father.
I was reflecting on some of the good times we shared together as father and son. That moment of reflection brought tears to my eyes because I miss my father and it also reminded me how precious each moment of life is.
As I thought about the life of my father, I couldn’t help but smile from the inside out!
He impacted so many lives with his humbled spirit. Even though he was an introvert, his humble and down to earth ways impacted so many lives!!!
To this day, I have people tell me what a positive effect my father had on their lives.
Even in times of struggle and challenges that left him frustrated and discouraged, I never saw him quit. He lived his life between the dash.
He didn't allow us to say can't or anything of the like and he truly showed us how to live life between the dash.
What is the dash?
The dash is the mark that separates a person’s beginning date from their ending date.
The dash is small in size and is most often overlooked, but in actuality, it represents great significance because it indicates the life that was lived.
When I think about my father, I am proud to say that he lived life of encouragement to us and others between his dates.
He did not have everything he wanted nor did he accomplish everything he desired, but he approached life with a vibrant attitude. He left a legacy of living life the best you can with the resources you have.
Your dash is an accumulation of how you live, laugh, and love until the day.
I don’t know about you, but I want my dash between my beginning and end dates to represent a powerful and lasting legacy.
I am talking about a legacy that will leave an inheritance to my children’s children and the generations that come after them.
Everything we do in this present life will be passed on to our future generations.
So what are you leaving behind?
You choose how you live between your dates by the actions you take today, and in the years to come.
Every day is a new opportunity to put your hearts stamp on how you want to be remembered in your dash.
When you get to the end of your life what story will your dash tell?
You can start today by stepping out in faith and follow the vision that is your heart, the cumulative visions you have that you take action on and leave your life stamp on your dash!!
Every second, minute, hour and day that you live in your dash is an opportunity to sow seeds of hope for today and future generations.
I am excited that I am the father of 4 wonderful chidren, 2 of which are future men.
I can spend quality time with them and share words of wisdom.
I am appreciative of the awesome responsibility that I have to train them to become responsible and productive men. I do not take it lightly.
As I think about how I am going to live my dash more effectively, I want to share with you, 27 heart felt and humbled insights I learned from my father on how to live your dash at maximum capacity.
1. Don't live your life trapped in the past
2. It's none of your business what people think of you
3. Don't doubt your heart, act on it faithfully
4. Humble yourself with positive people around you
5. Don’t let others set the bar for your life because more than likely they will set it too low.
6. Never quit on your dreams, or someone will have you building theirs
7. Laugh at yourself it's great therapy for your heart
8. Don’t let the fear of what could happen stop you from pursuing what is possible.
9. Having a dream changes nothing, but taking action can change everything
10. If you are still holding onto what you did yesterday then you will miss what you can do today.
11. Don’t listen to what people say, watch what they do.
12. When you take action on your vision, people will show up who want to help you succeed and some will show up to hinder your progress
13. If you have a past with someone, that doesn’t mean you should have a future with them.
14. A real tragedy in life is not death, but to let your vision die inside of you while you still live.
15. Striving for perfection costs you to much time
16. The tough lessons you need only come from living
17. Wealth is really about having a good name and being happy with it
18. If you want to live the life you were created to live, you must walk by faith and not by sight.
19. It is okay to ask for help
20. You can make excuses or you can live, but you can't do both
21. Learn from your failures, or continue to fail
22. Your gift to the world is only yours to give
23. It's your vision, most likely no one will endorse it until you do
24. Face fear and change head on
25. Pick yourself up and try again or the failure is final
26. Champions are not made in the classroom, but on the field
27. Trying to run someone else’s race will guarantee you defeat in your race
“A wise man will hear and increase in learning and a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel.” Proverbs 1:5
So there is 27 things I learned from my dad's legacy and hopefully they will help you move forward as man, husband, and father!
Happy Fathers Day!!!
To Your success in life,